Sunday, December 11, 2011

The Business of Gift Giving

"Espresso Shot - Upon entering the Holiday Gift Giving Season, remember, it's not about what you like, it's about what the person receiving the gift likes."

I posted this on my Sales Barista Facebook Page (it's where I post all of my Espresso Shots) shortly after a conversation I had regarding Christmas presents. I won't name them because it's not worth the added family holiday drama - you all know what I mean.

I was engaged in a conversation regarding what I knew a certain female friend wanted as a gift for Christmas. The person I was talking with had already purchased an item and was asking for my opinion on whether she would like it. It went a little something like this:

Me: "Oh she will love it! Is it pink?"
Anonymous: "No."
Me: "Wait, it doesn't have any pink on it? She really liked the one I have and I know she wants one with pink."
Anonymous: "No. I didn't get that, I didn't like any of those."

After I wrapped up the conversation (no pun intended), I yelled to my fiancĂ©, John, “Dude, he just doesn't get it. It's not about what he likes, it's about what she likes and what she wants.” So the espresso shot was born.

But as I started to think more deeply - I mean I really just couldn't understand this as I am someone who tries to find the perfect present for each person according to their likes, style, and wants - I realized that there is a business lesson in gift giving.

When you are engaging with your customers and trying to offer service or a product, it's all about their wants and likes, not yours. The best business people find out what their customers like, dislike, want, and need and provide their service and products based on this information.

Are you one of these best business people?
Or are you the businessperson who projects your likes and wants and needs onto your customers?

In the hurriedness of this economic season, it's easy to skip the formalities of doing business, to not really get to know your customers, and to not find out what the best gift you could give is.

Take heed and slow down.
Suppress your own opinions and get to know your customers.

Here are few steps you can follow to uncover the gift your customers really want:

1. Court them. Take the time to really get to know your customer. Research them on Google and social networking sites. Take them on multiple dates before you deliver what you think they want. Prepare for your meetings and prepare to become a friend, not just a person they do business with.

2. Ask them. The easiest and fastest way to get to know what they really want or what will be most helpful is to just ask them. It seems so simple, but so many people skip the asking questions portion and just go right to the, "Let me tell you all about me" portion. Guess what? They probably don't care about you, unless you know what they want, need, and how what you can provide fits into that. Prepare for your meetings by writing down intelligent, powerful, and creative questions that will help you identify their likes, dislikes, wants, and needs. Then ASK them, listen, and take notes.

3. Ask their trusted advisors. These are the people they trust and who know them best. Maybe it's their assistant, office manager, partner, or colleague. Everyone has someone that knows the person you are courting well enough to be able to advise you on their wants and needs. Think about my story, I knew what the receiver of the non-pink gift wanted. I knew because she told me. What's better than that?

Once you know what they really want, you can deliver the perfect present, a gift of understanding, listening, and truly knowing them. And that, my friends, is the greatest business gift of all.

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